Emotional Journey 2018 Begins ...

Photograph copyright Ralph M Ferraro 2017

“Emotions carry the essence

Talking to yourself ~ a new dimension

In my research on the power of emotional energy, I came across an interesting article by Therese Wade, entitled " How to heal yourself by talking to your body."

Emotional Energy: How to create your life story ~ Presentation by Ralph

A few photos  of Ralph's presentation "Emotional Energy: 
How to create your life story" 

at the NY Chinese Society, JPL Language Institute.  

"Emotional Energy: How to create your life story” Presentation coming mid June

Photo, and *titles Copyright Ralph M. Ferraro 2017

I have been very busy working on my book  on Emotional Energy that will be published in September of 2017.

I am excited to give you a preview in my workshop 

The Ego vs. Consciousness of the Self; a question of Emotional Energy

When I suggested, in my psychology class

that perhaps, the Freudian Ego matrix is the problem in relationship.

One student asked

Tips for a good portrait

Tips for a good portrait:

South Ferry NYC ~ image no. 1

© Ralph M. Ferraro Photography 2016 

Images may NOT be modified altered or cropped and the watermark must stay intact

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Saturday night,

Quantum Psychology of Relationship Workshop

• Learn about the shift in psychological perspective from understanding the past to creating solutions.
• Learn about the power of emotional energy on 3 levels: physical, intellectual, and spiritual or source energy.

Aerial Photography and Psychology

Vincent LaForet is a very talented videographer and Photographer. He shot aerial photographs of different cities around the world - some day - some night - some sunset.

Enthusiasm v. Procrastination and Entry to 2016

Sunday, 12/27/15, five days before the start of a New Year, Abraham-Hicks has an interesting and powerful quote to start off our new Year. 

Being Myself

“To be yourself in a world

that is constantly trying 

to make you something else

is the greatest accomplishment..”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson (1)

How do I be myself?

Masks Beauty or Defense

Masks - the Paradox
Are Masks to hide?
Are Masks a thing of beauty?

Strange Beast or Healing Vibration: Some dynamics of Humor

Strange Beast or Healing Vibration: Some dynamics of Humor

     I was invited to give a speech on humor by the Toastmaster group 1095. 

     On Wednesday, Aug 12^th, I presented my speech. It was well received.

     I will be presenting the material of the speech in my blog over a series of entries.

     I invite you my blog readers to come with me on a journey into two stories that are real. I lived them. Imagine yourself with me as I share my stories.

The 7 Meter Conundrum

7 Meters

Physical Distance

Vibrational Distance

Emotional Distance

Bearing ... 7 meters

lens to eye

Engagement

“What makes love last?” Do numbers have the answer?

     “What makes love last?” Do numbers have the answer? A review of Dr. Gottman's book, 

“What makes Love last? How to build trust and avoid betrayal: Secrets from the Love Lab” 

     Life is a paradox. When you think of love, do you think of numbers?  When I think of love, I think of warm ~  caring feelings, an embrace, a kiss. I think about the positive personal vibrational interaction between two people.

     Dr. John Gottman looks at love through a “trust metric,”

Eyes and vulnerability of Soul ~ a Question of Focus

 Continuing my thoughts on Mr. Costandi's article.

     According to Mr. Costandi “… eye movements can both reflect and influence higher mental functions such as memory and decision-making, and betray our thoughts, beliefs, and desires. … – but it also leaves us vulnerable to subtle manipulation ….”

     Perhaps the level of revelation of our eyes depends on two factors: first focused awareness and the feeling of connection or disconnection, and second the need for defense. If we are conscious of our feeling and thinking, we can chose to share with our eyes or to don our mask and withhold.

    If we are unfocused and allow things to just unfold, the eyes will be reactive, i.e. reflective of our emotions and thinking. To a trained observer, the eyes will reveal much of our intentions and emotional feelings. This revelation, for the person being observed, will most likely be on a subconscious level. On this level, the unfocused reactive person could be subject to manipulation or be used by the observer on a conscious and intentional manner. If on the other hand we are focused on our awareness of our thinking and feeling, it is less likely that our eyes will mirror or reveal our thoughts or feelings unless we chose to do so on a conscious level. By consciously being focused on our experience, we can visualize a contrast in what is unfolding before us and make a choice whether we want to continue the interaction or change our focus to find something more interesting or less likely to manipulate us into behavior that is not liked by us.

     The other important element in considering whether the eyes reveal our inner thoughts is the issue of defense. If we evaluate the stimulus as being unpleasant or threatening, we can shift into defensive mode. At a certain level of defense, the eyes become glossed over (not from use of drugs or alcohol) or masked, most likely by a subconscious shifting. In essence the eyes become closed or begin to insulate us from the stimulus that is before us. This all happens on a vibrational level.

     A skilled listener, salesperson, official, a criminal or a person with psychopathic tendencies, can pick up the intention, thoughts or feelings of an individual who is not aware of their own thoughts or feelings and use the thoughts or feelings that have not been consciously offered to them as a tool to manipulate or control the individual.

     It seems to me that the manipulation is not due to what the eye reveals but rather with the intention of the person reading the eyes to bypass the person’s conscious evaluation and push or manipulate the person to the choice that they want the person to make.

     The emotional energies of the soul or the inner being (thinking and feeling) of a person are great tools that we sometimes neglect. In order to tap into them, I recommend that my clients use a breathing meditation at least twice a day. The breathing meditation helps a person go inside and validate themselves; it helps the person clarify their path.  Once the person centers themselves from the core of their inner being, they are less vulnerable to manipulation. They are more focused and able to choose to share or to withhold their thoughts and feelings.

Eyes and our Emotional Energy

     Are our eyes connected to emotional energy?

    Are our eyes connected to our soul?

     Mo Costandi wrote an interesting article, “How eyes betray our thoughts,”[i] on the BBC online.[ii]

     Mo Costandi, starts with the often repeated “… the eyes are the window into the soul.”

     He then looks at science from a machine perspective

APRIL CHILL, SNOW, LOVE

APRIL CHILL, SNOW, LOVE

Early morning

End of April

Wintery Cold, Windy

Couple with young child ahead

All out to get breakfast [1]

I held the door

Allowed couple with child

To go ahead

On Friday, I attended a Fordham Alumni cocktail reception at the Princeton Club in Midtown.

The Graduate School of Social Work and the Graduate School of Education were represented at the event.

Aimee Barr, LCSW did an excellent  presentation on "“Asking the courageous question.” As clinicians, it is very important to ask this question to ourselves so that we may be more fully present to our clients. Asking ourselves the questions that give us difficulties is more productive than suffering quietly and ignoring important pivot points that will enhance and empower us.

I had a chance to network with many great professionals at this Alumni event. 
 

The path to healing is to