Continuing my thoughts on Mr. Costandi's article.
According
to Mr. Costandi “… eye movements can both reflect and
influence higher mental functions such as memory and decision-making, and
betray our thoughts, beliefs, and desires. … – but it also leaves us vulnerable
to subtle manipulation ….”
Perhaps the level of revelation of our eyes depends on two
factors: first focused awareness and the feeling of connection or
disconnection, and second the need for defense. If we are conscious of our
feeling and thinking, we can chose to share with our eyes or to don our mask
and withhold.
If we are unfocused and allow things to just unfold, the eyes
will be reactive, i.e. reflective of our emotions and thinking. To a trained
observer, the eyes will reveal much of our intentions and emotional feelings.
This revelation, for the person being observed, will most likely be on a
subconscious level. On this level, the unfocused reactive person could be
subject to manipulation or be used by the observer on a conscious and
intentional manner. If on the other hand we are focused on our awareness of our
thinking and feeling, it is less likely that our eyes will mirror or reveal our
thoughts or feelings unless we chose to do so on a conscious level. By consciously
being focused on our experience, we can visualize a contrast in what is
unfolding before us and make a choice whether we want to continue the
interaction or change our focus to find something more interesting or less
likely to manipulate us into behavior that is not liked by us.
The other important element in considering whether the eyes
reveal our inner thoughts is the issue of defense. If we evaluate the stimulus
as being unpleasant or threatening, we can shift into defensive mode. At a
certain level of defense, the eyes become glossed over (not from use of drugs
or alcohol) or masked, most likely by a subconscious shifting. In essence the
eyes become closed or begin to insulate us from the stimulus that is before us.
This all happens on a vibrational level.
A skilled listener, salesperson, official, a criminal or a person with psychopathic tendencies, can
pick up the intention, thoughts or feelings of an individual who is not aware
of their own thoughts or feelings and use the thoughts or feelings that have not
been consciously offered to them as a tool to manipulate or control the
individual.
It seems to me that the manipulation is not due to what the
eye reveals but rather with the intention of the person reading the eyes to
bypass the person’s conscious evaluation and push or manipulate the person to
the choice that they want the person to make.
The emotional energies of the soul or the inner being
(thinking and feeling) of a person are great tools that we sometimes neglect.
In order to tap into them, I recommend that my clients use a breathing
meditation at least twice a day. The breathing meditation helps a person go
inside and validate themselves; it helps the person clarify their path. Once the person centers themselves from the
core of their inner being, they are less vulnerable to manipulation. They are
more focused and able to choose to share or to withhold their thoughts and
feelings.
