the Bubble: the Magic of Relationship ~ Pt. II

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This week I was able to present my talk, 

"the Bubble: a Magical Relationship ~ Part II”, , to my Jade Toastmaster's Group and to students in several  of my College Classes.

You might ask what is a 

Bubble Relationship ... 

it has several components, it is:

•  not logical
•  Involves both
•  Emotional Energy ~ Joy ~ Pleasure 
•  Intellectual Energy ~ Openness ~ allowing ~ Choosing to interact with a creative flow that is uninhibited 
•  arises spontaneously
•  It is synergistic
•  a high level of positive energy
•  a state of Consciousness without thinking about it, without reasoning, without justifying, without planning
•  it is totally experiential, in the now
•  unparalleled Intensity
•  100% involvement (no shades of gray - you are either in the bubble or out of the bubble)
• You can only be in one bubble relationship at a time
• For a new bubble relationship to come into being, the older bubble relationship must end
•  It is a state of Joy, excitement
•  all else is excluded
•  baggage history (relationship, patterns, culture, religious dictums)
•  learned patterns of previous years, of childhood move aside to allow the now
•  the inclusiveness involves, 
• You, 
• the Person of Interest, 
• God or Source Energy
•  there is a unity
• you could  be in a crowded room yet
• the presence of others is extremely tangential, 
• as if they,  their thoughts or their observations, their comments did not exist, and 
• do not matter.
•  You and the other are 
• totally open, 
• vulnerable, 
• interactive
•  it is a live experience, not theoretical, not merely philosophical
•  It is fragile, Like the bubbles in the photo
•  Bubble consciousness can be maintained indefinitely
• both people must feed it by
•  allowing it to be
•  being totally open
•  communicating vibrationally and lovingly
•  not allowing others to interfere with the energy
• Bubble consciousness can stop instantaneously
• fear, anxiety, concern about “the others in the room” about “image” about “what others might say” can cause one or both people to suddenly say 
• “Oh shit, I am in the bubble”
•  “I am totally vulnerable (as opposed to allowing the pleasure, the joy to be)”
•  “what will others say or think?”
•  “I need to jump out of the bubble, I don’t know what to do ? … it’s scary.”
•  a person who leaves the bubble can block or seriously impair the communication with the other person for months or forever.

 Upon leaving the bubble, 

• the entire relationship can be so severely crippled because of a persons fear, inhibition, or defenses becoming activated and prominent. 
• The gates of relationship narrow significantly or close and 
• meaningful interaction between the two who had been in the bubble will be replaced with 
• increasing coldness, 
• increasingly fragmented conversations and / or 
• increasing physical distance.

I do believe this bubble experience is what we are meant to find. 

It is primarily a spirit state yet it is also physical. 

It is like no other human physical experience. 

To find it, requires 

• asking for / desiring  the experience, 
• allowing it to unfold, 
• having enough faith to allow it to blossom.

Comments, questions, thoughts are welcome :)))

Rmf